You can see a therapist in the meantime, which can help you cope through depression, too. Petty arguments and jumping to conclusions about his sanity can be entertaining when you're pissed but won't change a thing. Respect is something we can try to develop, but affection and mercy between you two comes from Allah: "And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. She has one child, age 15. You probably should have tried some form of marriage counselling before playing away. I feel like I don't even know him. Do not engage the feeling, or start thinking for 15 minutes about a wedding with the guy, etc. Me and my son go to animal shelters just to hold animals and be around them. Morning Glory by Lavyrle Spencer. When I tried to put our issues to the side and I told him I can’t do this alone, he didn’t care. they don't understand that "abusers" (whatever you call them) have an entire strategy and love-bomb their partner, acting all nice & perfect in the beginning. She loves me very much and she (as well as everyone in our lives) thinks that I love her to the moon and back. Despite the mean things he says I do love him. i feel so tired with everything. That was it. I think my husband [41M] is manipulating me [36F]. We met on a dating app during the pandemic and got engaged about a year after meeting and then married within another year. my body become so fat cause of pregnancy, seeing my husband not doing things right, his parents situation , getting pregnant. He feels the need to clean way more than me, but I always help when I see him start. My husband regrets marrying me. Nothing too out of left field here - differences in food preferences, less fun spirit now that we have kids, almost no sex since our second kid 10 months ago. We got a…. I make more money than he does and everything we have is because I've planned and moved forward. My parents were both very emotionally abusive and for years I thought there was something terribly wrong with me for them to treat me that way. Towards the end, one night he woke me crying, begging me to promise him that I would find someone to love/remarry because the thought of me spending the rest of my life sad and alone was tearing him apart. I’m 26(F) been married for 14 months. You're struggling, too. I think my husband is a perv. I think my husband cheated on a guys trip. Presumably if you chose to have a second partner then there’s nothing stopping you either. And when we were dating everything was great and normal and it seemed like we were both in love. I started dating my wife four years ago after I realized the woman I have always loved will never be mine. We both work and have a comfortable, upper-middle class lifestyle. I love animals and they have always been a part of me and my son. Guys like your husband don’t care about formality inside a marriage. I disagree, but that's where we are. lies, expects you to clean his dishes after he If he had only come to you years ago and told you how he was feeling, there would've been a chance to fix it. Today is my 7 month wedding anniversary and I honestly think my husband is going to divorce me. My advice is to get out now before you do actually have kids with this man. THREE YEARS LATER I am DESPERATELY in LOVE with HIM!! #reddit #redditstories #askreddit #shortstory I think my husband settled for me and is okay with us not working out. I’m not changing myself or who I am or who I want to be for you. I have told my husband has changed a lot each time he went on deployment. Throughout my pregnancy and since I’ve given birth he’s been doing drugs, leaving me at home with the kids for days without saying anything, gambling In fact, not having a support network can put additional stress on a marriage, and may be a contributing factor to compounding issues in your marriage. Hello, im 32F and my husband is 41M. Unfortunately, at his family's dinner a few weeks ago, I realized that my husband will never, ever come out. Don't go out of your way to see what she's up to. The night before Thanksgiving, he said "I'm not happy" and started making divorce noises. Setting alarms on my phone has helped me a lot. It all started off decent and just like any other normal out to eat. Therapist isn't helping. He mentioned that maybe we should go separate ways a couple times in the past and I think he really wants this. I’m currently 6 weeks postpartum. I The main motivator for a young man to get married is to fulfil his sexual desire in a halal way. We met in college and got married 4 years ago. I've been married for 21 years in September. My (29f) husband (29m) went on a guy's trip to another country. You marry someone you're reasonably attracted to, and think you would want to get to know better over the years. His mental health is all over the place, and he’s on so many meds. It is very difficult for the smell to stick to the glass. My husband said that if I ever bring an animal home then he’s packing up and leaving and moving out of state and that he will disconnect his number. I trusted him and didn't think he would disrespect me and I actually encouraged him to take this trip. I hate how he made me feel when we were trying to have a kid. My husband hasn’t been since he was a teen. I would recommend bringing this up to your husband in a non-accusatory way. He couldn't bear to think of my life ending with his. We’ve had sex a couple of time since I had the baby and I’m not on birth control. My (25f) husband (25m) has been acting out and being an inconsiderate jerk for the last 18 months. So basically, my husband and I have been married less than a year. CaramelCinnamonRolls. Arranged marriage can be good if you get the time to formally get to know the person and date them instead of using the antiquated process of knowing who youre getting married to on your wedding day. And I think he loves me back, I think that might be the one emotion he does have. I would hate for that to happen to you. My husband is the love of my life, my true soulmate. I was heartbroken and it took me a while to be okay with him afterwards. THREE YEARS LATER I am DESPERATELY in LOVE with HIM!! #reddit #redditstories #askreddit #shortstory Nov 9, 2023 · The period for a marriage-based green card depends on the spouse ‘s green card. Together for 15 years married for 4. At first the numbers go way up--it will seem like he is constantly on your mind. He doesn’t talk much… except to his buddies. Plus humour = A Wicked Kind of Husband by Mia Vincy. He has hurt me a lot in the past & we been married almost 8yrs. In 2020 my husband lost his job due to the pandemic. It feels as if he married me for show. I think my husband is a bad parent. He may sound tired because he's sometimes tired! Some people don't find it so natural to express the same level of enthusiasm for things over and over again. ”. All “straight” guys aren’t the same, neither are gay, bisexual, or whatever the label. Been together for about 4 now. For me it makes sense that he have eaten seafood, he have not washed the container well and that is why it kept the smell. I'm in my mid 40s, as is my wife. I said it was wonderful. Happiness isn't an everyday thing. Please please please leave. I don’t think my husband likes me or our life. So a while ago I spilled my story about why I think my husband's gay- mostly DB stuff. If your spouse is a citizen of the US and is currently in the US, it will take about 14 to 28 months. Being married has made everything easier. We have two kids together 5, m and 10 months, m. My son then told my husband that he he should stop yelling at me. . I want to have a temporary separation (3-6 months) to figure out where I personally stand on this however husband begs not to do so. He never did. My PERFECT husband AND I GOT MARRIED out of CONVENIENCE in order to SAVE ME from my ABUSIVE FATHER. ago. I genuinely think my husband hates me. He looks at my body, not at all interested. Her Mum Indian (dark skinned) Cousin took her Dads Scottish colouring…now the interesting thing is my cousin married another white guy and had a baby not to long ago…that looks exactly like my cousins mum, dark skinned Indian. He also remembers and handles all the upkeep, which is a lot of work. This happens to a lot of parents. There's a lot of bawling and begging that's been going on. Around me and even around his own family, his parents, our children, he is quiet and distant. The amount of physical touch you mention in this post would suffocate me. After I moved away for college (and became quite a party girl- he disapproved) we lost touch for a few years. he knows that it’s considered cheating in your eyes because he agreed to it after a discussion. The three of us had been watching movies on the pull out bed and both the baby and my husband had fallen asleep. Love, commitment, and loyalty are forever. We've been together for almost 20 years, since I was out of high school. So he’s not the best with teachers and likes to belittle them I think. I’m not sure but I definitely think he’s bipolar or got some sort of mental illness. There are social, economic, and legal benefits to being married. Best to just move on. I’m visiting my parents and staying over at their house. My husband said he regret marrying me. I [26 F] think my husband [26 M], married 2 yr together 4 yr, is gay [update] Updates. My husband and I first met in junior high and were friends all throughout high school. Yesterday in our 3rd session of marriage counseling, the shrink asked me how does J make me happy, and all I could think of was that he always brings me a cup of coffee and my pills every single morning when my alarm goes off. I got rid of her and I think about her everyday. 100% defenses lowered. I was video chatting my husband and things started to get sexual. But, my husband and I are on the same page about how much physical affection we both need and grabbing each other's ass a few times a week sends a loud and clear message that we love each other physically. About yourself and how even when things just keep piling on, you somehow keep going. Maybe he needs medication. (This is the part that makes me most nervous. The loss of income was difficult, but I made enough to support us both, although we had to be much better about budgeting and put having kids on hold so we could pay the bills. Your allowing him to make you the other. it's definitely waayyyy cheaper and easier to do than a divorce. I think my husband is jealous of me. I love my husband with everything that I am. This is mostly regarding our oldest, who is 8. I have always been fairly independent. just everything slowly crushing me. My long-term marriage [23 years] is intact out of love, respect, loyalty, and a commitment to our vows. That was all I could think of. -he has complained to his friends and said he was considering divorce (see my So you were groomed as a teenager, and married too young, and now it’s not working out. Reply. I don't think my (28F) husband (34M) likes me anymore, he just doesn't know it. My (27F) husband (30M) have been together for about 8 years. I’m really struggling mentally because I’ve had two babies in the past 2. He blames me for everything that goes wrong, if he can't find something, if the dog tears something up, if I get sick, if I burn something, if he burns something, etc. He capitalizes on that to make his “preferences” seem less outrageous. I was telling him a story about something and during the middle he started to look behind me. My (34f) husband (37m) has always been a quiet guy. You’ve fought this hard for the dignity, self respect, and control in your life that you have now. Aug 16, 2012 · Staying married out of conveniance. He lights up around them like a different person. Absolutely. So part of why I love him is that he doesn't make my life unstable. We've been married for half that time and have one child (6F). My husband is driven, focused, and very type A and clean. He made excuses about the state of repairs and began sleeping in the guest room (moving would imply he has taken his personal possessions out of the A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Due to his occupation and lifestyle, alcohol is very accessible and commonly used. My husband hates me. Yet, he refuses to acknowledge me in bed, or even in a kissing manner for that matter. I'm sure he chose you as he saw those things in you. If you alone are unhappy, it's ok to leave. If my husband caused my life to feel unstable, I wouldn't have continued dating him long enough to get to know him well enough to love him and want to marry him. He wants other sexual partners. I'm leaving my husband because he's not upholding his part of the deal. Genes are wild. 4. I think my husband just “stealthed” me. I don't think my husband likes me anymore. Both my husband and I struggle with anxiety/depression, however, I’m the only one actively in therapy. For instance, my husband and son were brainstorming business ideas together, I had thought of some good ideas myself and was ready to share just in case. Maybe he's depressed. I feel like I made a huge mistake. So now people think my cousin and her husband adopted an Indian baby. If you react badly to every little issue or hiccup, it's going to add unnecessary stress to the relationship. you deserve better. AlanDavisJr. Divorce him because your marriage is not a marriage. The last straw of my boyfriend for leaving She is a wonderful person and I respect her very much, but I do not love her. Relationships. When I approached them, he was in the corner on his phone and 12 month old was playing herself and couldn't get him to engage. But you can love someone and they can be horrible for you. He’s gotten very angry, and is just a dark cloud all the time. So if the person wants to find out the partner’s real We've been married for 7 years and last night was our anniversary and we went to a restaurant, his favorite place. My ex husband told me he was genuinely sad for a large portion of our relationship because he knew he would never get a threesome and told me he didn't even want to get married. I (30F) have been married to my husband (31M) since 2014 and we have been together since 2011. When you have a feeling of crushing, acknowledge it and move on. He’s completely isolated himself, and only leaves the house to go to work or take the dog out. The only reason my ex-husband is in my life at all is because of our kids, otherwise I would have gotten a restraining order against him and never seen him again. My husband and I almost left each other the day he found out I was pregnant because of an argument and stubborn emotions between the both of us. I don’t know if people experienced this before but I looked into my husband’s eyes and knew he didn’t love me, I saw it in his eyes and heart he didn’t want to be with me, he wanted out. I think you're fine, honey. sometimes i just want to tell him The Devil You Know by Liz Carlyle. Then block his number. I'm a widow in my 30s. Laura Lee Guhrke's The Marriage Bed note: in this one they were in love when they married, but book starts with them estranged. THREE YEARS LATER I am DESPERATELY in LOVE with HIM!! #reddit #redditstories #askreddit #shortstory Once I got to Jessica’s house she comes out with a big smile and walks to me for a hug… And “SMACKKKKK” I quoted it for the sound 20 years later we’re talking parallel with my right shoulder and staggering back almost falling over. My husband and I got married at the end of 2021. He might feel as locked in as you do, but doesn't want to feel like a failure. We knew my husband was dying for 2 years due to cancer. The journey hasn't been easy, especially after we moved to another country for John's job while I pursued my studies. He refuses to get intimate, unless it’s me on him, which feels uncomfortable for me, yet even then he isn’t happy. May 23, 2018 · When you are ambivalent about the relationship but stay because it's good enough. We have been having several issues in the past few months and I think I figured out that the crux to everything is my husband’s jealousy. He could've gone to individual counseling. He confesses that he thought he was going through a mid-life crisis a few years ago and we’ve been trying to work through it. Husband and I are 29 years old. After my post my husband (38M) and I (23F) talked a lot about our future. During the time I knew my husband I have always thought so highly of him. If you want keep a running count. If a man keeps making excuses about spending time with you or puts you on the back burner and decides to see you when he wants to see you then hes really not interested in you or he just not mature enough to maintain a relationship. I [26 F] think my husband [26 M], married 2 yr together 4 yr, is gay. If he is unhappy, he should know that you think it's ok to end the marriage. Generally an affair is a reference to a relationship that is somehow secret from the partner or the other partner doesn’t know about. I can't divorce him because he will get half of my assets and my family really love him. I'm annoyed at myself for not seeing through him and done what I needed to have a child. We've been married nearly 5 years. they usually start being abusive once you're locked down and it's much harder to leave, like after getting married. From now on, ask me for a tissue if you feel like picking. I think you’ll both be fine. I'm all alone I begged him that I will change and fix the way I speak but I think at this point he It's exhausting to have to constantly prove to your partner that you love them. By the time we were 23 neither of us had I (40F) love my husband (44M) more than anyone. I don't need to keep saying it. I wasn’t in the mood for sex and told him to stop and that I didn’t want to, plus our baby was sleeping next to us. When the relationship is holding you back in some ways, but is comfortable and content. Hey everyone, to cut to it my husband has always made it obvious his type was not me. On the other hand, if the spouse is a green card holder and is in the US, it will take 22 to 36 months. How can I (22F) make my husband (37M) understand (it was a marriage of convenience) that I really love him? - 24 February 2021 We got married almost four years ago because it was the only way for me to be safe, my father was an abusive and extremely conservative man, he raised me by himself and made my childhood a nightmare, he was sick in the head, he was very religious, he was interested in You're not expected to fall in love and get married, you're expected to get married and fall in love. He’s in the navy & he has been on 4 deployments & I was pregnant twice while he was 2 of the deployments. We had to do long distance starting in September because of our jobs, and although we will be back together next May things have quickly gone downhill. Yes, it sounds like you’re a handful, but if he’s still invested after this long then I don’t think he’s going anywhere. I’m posting this for advice so feel free to post your thoughts. His military buddies. ( literally the first couple days of us texting he said he wouldn’t be afraid to lose me and sent himself posed with Brazilian women). We moved to a new city after I got a promotion and he also works for the same company. We've been married for 7 years and last night was our anniversary and we went to a restaurant, his favorite place. My husband and I got married pretty young (23) and we have been through a lot together, but I would say that our biggest struggles have been our careers and deciding on which paths to take. We got married about a year and a half ago. EG: "Hey husband, I'd really like to talk about a few things that may seem out of the blue for you, but I'd like to discuss for my own clarity and peace of mind. We have 3 kids, 8, 5, and 1. 5 years and I breastfeed. This could be anything. Said I was a terrible person and compared me to Hitler, amongst other things. i get a lot of breakdown and cry a lot. For context, he has one kid from his previous relationship of 7 years, and they lived in together for 5 years. Because sweet girl, this is not it. I think I hate my husband. He told me to shut up and didn’t actually put it A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. We have a marriage that works but isn't very satisfying. " I think this is pretty normal for lots of married people. And it's definitely convenient having him as a partner because he We have had our ups & downs. Money. Being young, married, and new parents is hard. -This is an anon account-. My cousins Dad is Scottish. So getting this treated will actually strengthen and protect your marriage. Put a note on the bathroom mirror that says: coryeyey. Just acknowledge and move on. My husband (34) and I (37) have been together for about 12 years, married for 3. My mother-in-law bought our nephew another toy car I’ve had the same experience. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. However, when getting married, the man should choose a woman he can see as a good mother to his future children, a woman who is God fearing and so on and so forth. sit down and have a full conversation that you both agreed it’s cheating Thanks everyone for taking time to read my story and give feedback. If my husband one day told me he no longer loved me or was no longer attracted to me I’d simply tell him, “ok. 3 Couples In Love Can See A Future Together And Openly Discuss It For me, it's difficult to separate those things. 1. Man thinking about this is wild. More power to you! 847K subscribers in the AMA community. TL;DR: my marriage is awesome, fuck cancer. Got me for the embrace lol. Live. He also got a promotion out of some of my networking and connections. Apologies for the wall of text. He doesn’t care who you sleep with, except if it’s in a way that he feels entitled to dictate. He’s even gotten aggressive, but a medication change seemed to help Your breath smells bad. I know people on there 50s and 60s who still occasionally think about their old flames. I told him that I was happy with the life I had with him, and that I wanted our marriage to work. We have 3 children (11M, 8M and 6F). She got my ass badddd. We used to have things in common, but we don't share much Still can’t keep our hands off each other. If this is real you are a trash human, you deserve everything bad that can happen to you in life. I work a full time job and I had my own apartment before marriage whereas he is still in school, has no income, and lives with his parents. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Focus and do what you need to do. My husband woke up and was horny and started dry humping me. After we took the girls to bed, he sat on the couch and zoned into the TV. I think I should just annull this and leave. Many people feel a strong sense of duty to keep a marriage together even when it is broken. You’ve fought this hard to get where you are today. Maybe one day we'll evolve as a society and marriage will become an antiquated institution of the past, but that day isn't going to be in our lifetimes. He's been gone for a few days and the first 3 days he called my daughter and I to check on us. We’ve been married for close to 20 years but he is has been going through a lot of changes in the last 5 years. 😫 😩 🙏🏼 😭 😪 😔 edit to add - I have bared my entire soul to this man, and he won't even tell me what he gets for lunch at work. I’ll make changes to myself, but for myself and because I want to, not to fit someone else’s mold. Tell your husband, divorce him and let him go and be with someone who can stick with one man. Hence why I married him. • 3 yr. So we’re (both 25) getting a divorce, initiated by him. Recent events led me to change my mind. Sums up half the questions of this sub. Told him I’ll go to the bathroom to help jack him off. That's temporary. Their relationship of 7 years has had a history of cheating, the girl cheated on him thrice but he still accepted her. someone please tell me things will get better. Your feelings are totally valid. He remembers everything and does it. I’m almost 22 and he’s 27. I can't think of ways my husband of 40 years makes me happy. The expectation is that the love will grow as you learn about and support each other over time. Stop waiting for him. Mushroomcake200. There are many things together and I don’t know if I’m thinking clearly so he has no respect for you, cheats. Your husband is cheating on you and the fact that things were good up until you got married makes me believe he set you up. My husband doesn't want us to get separated and has suggested individual therapies and marriage counselling. Sometimes we disagree and it's not happy. In addition to that, I would suggest communicating with your husband. This made me very depressed because since then I keep finding evidence I’m not his physical type. However, every time I tried to speak, my husband would get angry and tell me to "stop interrupting". i regret everything right now and i dont feel the same about him anymore. I'm like that. You know and condone and even encourage it, so it’s simply an open relationship. If you are pregnant, get an abortion (unless you’re definitely against that). He told me to move out and try to live my life without him so that I could experience being independent for once, but I didn't want to. My sister went into the bathroom before me so I told my husband that someone went into the bathroom and asked him to wait. Maybe he feels like a gross dad after he had his kid. Award. Since i’ve left. There are other issues, I think, but he won't tell me bc he doesn't think it's worthwhile to discuss it. My husband doesn't say it nearly so much, and I'm not concerned at all. ADMIN MOD. Reply reply. Slowly collect whatever belongings you have at your boyfriends place and once you have all of your things, end the relationship and if he gets angry in messages save them and go to the police for an intervention order. Years later, we reconnected over Facebook and discovered that we were in the one more thing: ignore the people blaming you or asking why you got married to him. When he proposed I said yes right away and we got married 3 months later bc he said he didn’t want to wait, we’re religious so we My husband, whom I'll refer to as John, and I (Mary) have been through almost 7 years together, celebrating 6 years of marriage, and we're parents to a wonderful 5-year-old son. I love him but he acts like he hates me. My wife is totally opposite of the woman I love. It’s truly a blessing and amazing feeling to have always felt loved and to have never, not once ever, felt jealousy or envy. I love him to death I don't want to lose him, but I'm coming to the realization that maybe he just doesn't want to be with me anymore. I have 2 kids from my past marriage & now 3 with my current husband. We've not decided on anything yet, however it kinda makes sense financially and as long as you both know where you stand in the marriageI see no reason why it couldn't work. I don’t think my husband loves me anymore. I don’t think you’re insecure, but I think your husband goes out of his way to make you feel insecure. You could've gone to marriage counseling. you’re garbage lmao. I'm getting physically sick from all this. He could be straight but simply disinterested in sex; maybe he’s asexual but desires a romantic relationship. Some guys just want a better situation or a place to stay. He referred to me as a low wage worker as well due to me not finishing school and working customer service jobs. 1 - Some of the language you've used to describe our marriage made me feel like our marriage isn't as A subreddit to help figure out if you overreacted to something or if you were justified. My husband (42) is going through some shit. Congratulations to you and yours. When sexual passion is ADMIN MOD. Apr 19, 2018 · Couples who are together out of convenience may acknowledge special days, but they might not make it a big deal. Accept me and take me as I am, or don’t. My boyfriend and I got into a fight and he vented to his friends and they all basically just shat on me. Look, unlike some of the other posters, I don’t think you are having a mental health crisis - you retain far too much insight for that and you are taking your medications. 5. I’ve booked a dentist appointment for you, and I’m coming with you. Stop picking your nose, and go to the toilet and blow. he’s grown and knows what he’s doing. Claimed he would move out to a property purchased for rental income. Don’t stop fighting for what you deserve. I am current pregnant with our first and he has a child from his previous marriage. . I didn't really think to pursue more of an education I had a similar conversation with a friend recently. When you have “the one” it’s perfectly imperfect and all you’ve ever wanted or dreamed of. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. Already Married, then fall in love. Not until his mother I (30 f) have been married to my husband (37 m) for a bit over a year. My husband has told me a few time that "he made a mistake marrying me I (27F) and my boyfriend 33 (M) have been dating for almost a year now. fc ee bk gq mv zm hj bo pm we